Losing a loved one is always painful, regardless of the circumstances, but when your loss is as a result of suicide, there can be other elements to your grief that it can be difficult to deal with.
An article for the Metro discussed the challenges of coping with grief following a suicide, noting that it’s something we should be talking about more often and more openly.
Journalist Fiona Thomas spoke to several people who had lost a loved one to suicide to find out how it affected them, as well as to counsellor Mark Harkness. He explained that those who are bereaved by suicide shouldn’t blame themselves.
Often, they can also get angry with the person who took their own life, which can then lead to feelings of guilt. Mr Harkness stressed that accepting help and support is vital.
“Don’t shut people out who are reaching out to help you. They may not be able to change how you feel, or even understand, but try to let them in,” he stated.
Phyl, who lost her husband to suicide, told the newspaper that there is support out there and that she found counselling and trauma support helpful. She also revealed that meeting other people who had been through something similar helped her move forward.
It can be difficult to deal with the practical side of things when someone dies from suicide, because it’s often so sudden and unexpected. Finding a sympathetic Cookham funeral director is a good first step, and they can help you explore your options.
For instance, in 2017 the ban on full funeral services for those who have taken their own lives was lifted by the Church of England, which means you can now have a full church service if this is what you and your loved ones would like.