When involved in Amersham funeral planning, something you need to give a bit of consideration to is what kind of food you’re going to serve. It’s traditional to provide some kind of sustenance at a wake but some do worry about it feeling too much like a party when it’s naturally a very sombre occasion.
It’s worth bearing in mind that wakes are often useful as a cathartic release. The funeral itself is fraught with emotion and people often feel the need to laugh and joke afterwards as a way of letting this go – so don’t be upset or surprised if it does seem as though people are enjoying themselves.
There are also difficulties involved in knowing how many people to cater for – you could provide enough food for 25 people and then have 100 turn up to pay their respects, so do try to get an accurate idea of numbers if you can.
Since funerals are supposed to be about honouring the deceased, it would be a lovely idea to serve up a few of their favourite dishes – which you can make yourself, of course, but no doubt your caterers will be able to help out if you make a few suggestions as well.
That said, it’s worth bearing in mind how many people will be coming to the wake as it can quickly become expensive providing enough food – so buffet-style fare may be the best route to go down, with frozen finger food, mini sandwiches and so on easily able to feed lots of people while helping to keep costs down.
And whatever you do, don’t forget to provide drinks as well. If you’re holding the wake in a hotel or similar, you can make use of the bar but if you’re using a local town hall, for example, you will need to provide the refreshments yourself. Ensure a range of soft and alcoholic drinks to help celebrate the life of the deceased.